A structured event tracker designed to help you record situations clearly and consistently over time.

Particularly helpful where situations feel unclear, communication becomes difficult, or patterns of behaviour need to be monitored calmly and objectively.

Simply enter a diary note and the information can be organised into structured themes:

• Childcare and parenting
• Communication
• Control incidents
• Financial matters
• Emotion and boundaries
• Daily summary

Helps you:

• keep factual records
• identify patterns over time
• present information clearly
• reduce emotional language in written notes
• feel more organised and prepared
• support preparation for professional conversations if needed

Designed to support clarity and consistency when documenting events.

Child-focused message support tool
£2 per month

A structured communication support tool designed to help you draft calm, measured messages to your ex-partner.

You can input a message before sending, and the tool helps:

• reduce emotional escalation
  • keep communication neutral
  • maintain focus on the children
  • present communication clearly and reasonably
  • avoid reactive wording that may increase conflict

This tool follows similar principles to other communication platforms that can be significantly more expensive.

Note: this tool is not court-approved.

Downloadable reflection prompts

Guided prompts designed to help you:

• pause before responding
• structure messages clearly
• focus on practical outcomes
• maintain a child-centred perspective
• reduce misunderstandings

Particularly helpful when conversations feel tense or repetitive.

Downloadable structured reflection tool

Supports calm thinking when situations feel overwhelming.

Encourages:

• identifying what is within your control
  • focusing on constructive next steps
  • maintaining perspective
  • reducing reactive decision-making

Downloadable decision support tool

Encourages thoughtful, consistent decision-making centred on the child’s needs.

Supports:

• consideration of options
  • clarity around reasoning
  • consistency of approach
  • review planning where helpful

Downloadable preparation tool

Helps structure sensitive discussions in a calm and child-focused way.

Supports:

• clarity of purpose
  • steady communication
  • forward-focused discussion
  • reduced reactivity

Downloadable transition support tool

Supports calm and consistent handovers between homes.

Helps ensure important information is shared clearly and reduces avoidable follow-up communication.

Includes space for:

• school updates
  • health updates
  • medication
  • clothing
  • upcoming activities
  • routine changes

Downloadable reflection planner

Encourages focus on stability, reassurance and positive development.

Supports reflection on:

• what is helping the child feel settled
  • routines that support stability
  • positive developments
  • small supportive adjustments

Downloadable financial clarity tool

Supports transparent tracking of shared child-related costs.

Helps reduce misunderstandings and provides a clear overview of shared financial responsibilities.

Categories may include:

• school costs
  • clothing
  • activities
  • medical
  • childcare
  • transport

Downloadable structured planner

Supports predictable routines and reduces last-minute uncertainty.

Helps organise:

• weekly routines
  • handover arrangements
  • school term schedules
  • holiday planning
  • important dates

Encourages consistency and helps children feel more settled.

Downloadable PDF guide

Works alongside the Safe SMS Responder.

Provides simple guidance on:

• keeping discussions centred on children’s needs
  • using language that supports cooperation
  • maintaining a balanced and measured tone
  • setting clear expectations

Designed to support constructive co-parent communication.